8 Tips for Achieving a More Positive Attitude

8 Tips for Achieving a More Positive Attitude

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Following on from my last blog 7 Signs You Could Benefit from a Change in Your Mindset I have put together my top tips on how to be more positive!

Having a positive attitude can have a big impact on your life. According to studies, it can make you feel happier and make you more resilient. And potentially, it may also be able to help you live longer too! If you’ve had a negative attitude for a while, it can feel like a massive challenge to turn that around and be a more positive person. With a few mental shifts, it’s more achievable than you might think. Here are some tips for getting and keeping a more positive attitude.

Recognise that change starts with you

A lot of us feel that life is something that happens to us, which can make you feel as though luck is a big factor in how it plays out.

Realising that you actually have much more control of your future is a mental shift that is super important for maintaining a positive attitude.

Change starts with you – if you believe something is possible, there’s a much bigger chance that it will happen. And if you don’t believe it’s possible? You’re not likely to take any steps towards change and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Any changes you want to make to your health and wellbeing all start with your mindset.

Know that you’re enough

Accepting who you are and not comparing yourself to other people is a big part of having a positive attitude. Those ultra confident people you’ve been secretly envious of are probably not as super confident as you think. What they do have in bundles is self acceptance.

We all have different things to offer to the world and finding ways to embrace this can help you to move past the negative mindset that usually comes with feeling inadequate about yourself. Positive affirmations can be a great way to encourage your mind to recognise that you are definitely enough.

Switch negative thinking for positive

Negative thinking is one of the hardest things to change but it’s also one of the most important shifts to make for a positive attitude. If negative thought patterns have become second nature to you, you might not even be aware of just how negative and self destructive your thoughts are.

Isolating your thoughts is the first step, and mindfulness can be great for this. You might find that within your negative thoughts, you tend to repeat a few more often than others and pass judgement on yourself with specific bits of self talk. Whenever you find yourself talking negative to yourself, try to stop it in its tracks and turn it around into much more positive self talk.

Start the day off right

How you start off the day can help you to get off on a positive note for the rest of it. Positive affirmations along the lines of “This is going to be a good day” can put you in the right mindset. Morning rituals can also include eating a healthy and filling breakfast, drinking a glass of warm water and lemon to get your digestion going and doing gentle stretching exercises to improve your circulation. Spending a bit of time on these every morning can be a game changer for a more positive start to the day, even if you find that you have to get up a little earlier to make it happen.

Find enjoyment in the little things

We often rely on the big things to trigger happiness but you’re more likely to find contentment if you look for positives and enjoyment in the smaller things in life. Instead of believing that money and a great career will bring you joy and fulfillment, switch focus and get into the habit of appreciating the things around you. From the sights and sounds of nature to enjoying a calming cup of tea, there’s lots of opportunity to enjoy small moments that can help you to feel more content with life.

Gratitude can be really good for helping you to look deeper and turn negatives into positives. When you’re faced with a stressful situation or just one that isn’t going as you planned, dig deep and flip things around to find a silver lining that you can express gratitude for. Even in a traffic jam, you can find a positive such as being thankful for a chance for some “chill” time to relax, for example.

Smile a lot

How often do you smile on an average day? If it’s not a lot, you’re missing out on chances to release some feel-good brain chemicals, including serotonin. Smiling sets the scene for genuine happiness so even if you don’t feel happy right now, making sure to smile can change that. Even a fake smile can do this, according to studies.

Look for opportunities to learn and grow

How do you tend to feel when things don’t go to plan? If you usually feel that it’s a sign that life isn’t fair, try reframing your thinking. Instead of asking why these kind of things always happen to you, switch it up and ask what you can learn from the fact that it did happen. How can it help you to grow as a person, for example? In this way, you can turn failures and mistakes into opportunities to learn and develop.

Surround yourself with positive people

Another top tip for maintaining a positive attitude involves the people you surround yourself with in your day-to-day life. Be honest with yourself here and ask if the people around you are really inspiring you to be positive or helping to drag you down and reinforce negative thinking? If it’s more the former than the latter, you might want to rethink the company you keep and look for people who can help you to project positive energy.

I hope you find my tips helpful, they work for me so should work for you too.

Wishing you health and happiness,

Christy x

7 Signs You Could Benefit from a Change in Your Mindset

7 Signs You Could Benefit from a Change in Your Mindset

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Your mindset is super important for personal growth and self-acceptance, especially if yours tends to be a negative one. If you’re stuck in a fixed negative state of mind, it can be difficult to recognise when you would benefit from changing your mindset, even when the signs are staring you in the face. Feel like that could be the case for you? Here are my 7 signs that it’s time to switch up your mindset.

You only see negative things

Do you tend to put a strong focus on what’s wrong in your life and rarely (or never! ) acknowledge the good parts? This is a major sign that you’ll benefit from changing your mindset to a more positive one that will help you to build better mental strength.

As you probably know from personal experience, negative thinking paves the way for stress, anxiety and other mental health problems. It also lowers your expectations if you’re constantly expecting the worst case scenario to occur.

You put yourself after everyone else

How are you doing when it comes to self care and taking care of your own needs? If you still feel that it’s selfish to focus on yourself rather than other people, this is another sign that it’s time to alter your mindset and make yourself more of a priority.

Putting yourself first sometimes is super important for your own health and wellbeing, especially when it comes to things like sleep and healthy eating. Self care also triggers a relaxation response, which can help to stop the stress response affecting your health. These days, we know that chronic stress and the inflammation it can trigger is a big factor in a lot of health issues. Self care can therefore be a lot more crucial than you might think and changing your mindset to reflect this can be one of the best things you can do for your health.

You blame yourself for everything

When things don’t go to plan, do you usually put the blame solely on yourself and refuse to recognise that other factors may be involved too? Excessive self-blame is linked to mental health problems, including depression. It’s also something that holds you back from being able to learn and grow from mistakes and experiences.

Instead of blaming yourself, try recognising that it’s time to shift your mindset towards self-acceptance and self-forgiveness instead. We all make mistakes and having a mindset that accepts this and looks for ways to use them in a positive way

You worry (all the time)

Everyone worries now and again but if your worries are consuming you, you’ll definitely benefit from a mindset change.

A negative and anxious mindset can be very exhausting and it’s also very unproductive. A lot of the time, you’re worrying about things that will never happen or that you can’t change so it’s literally wasted energy. Finding ways to stop worrying about things you have no control over is super important for a more positive mindset. And for the things you might be able to change? Focus on what you could do to make that happen.

Your expectations stress you out

If you’re expecting things to happen without the right mindset, it’s usually going to end in frustration and disappointment. This is particularly true when it comes to happiness. We often expect happiness to just happen to us, usually in line with material things or other people. Expectations about who you should be and what other people expect from you can also super stressful.

Shifting your mindset to recognise that your expectations start with you can be a game changer as it helps you to feel that you have control over them. Experts have suggested that lowering your expectations can be a secret weapon in the road to happiness.

Your routines have changed

Have you noticed a shift in your sleep, appetite and mood lately? If this isn’t for the better, it’s another sign that your mindset could use a more positive stance.

A negative mindset can have an effect on your health so it’s probably no great surprise to know that negative changes in your routines can come about as a result of your mindset, especially if you don’t have a positive one. Negative thought patterns can affect your sleep patterns and mood, and can also lead to emotional eating.

You feel your priorities/values aren’t matching your life

Have a think about your biggest priorities in life. Maybe these focus on your health, happiness or family, for example. Now have a think about whether your life is really helping you to work towards your priorities. Were you surprised to recognise that your priorities and values don’t fit too well with how you’re living your life? It’s another sign that you’re in the right position to change your mindset and bring your life in line with your values.



Healthy Emotions for Healthy Lifestyle Choices

Healthy Emotions for Healthy Lifestyle Choices

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Making healthy food and drink choices is something we all know how to do on a logical and intellectual level. Nowadays we have easy access to an abundance of healthy-eating advice and information, and healthy living is a hot topic.

We all know that an apple is a better choice than a bar of chocolate. We know that our bodies are crying out for a drink of hydrating, cleansing water and not a chemical-laden can of Diet Coke.

Why, then, can it be so difficult to make the right choice?

Why can it be so difficult to break a bad habit, even when we know that the benefits of doing so would be immense and probably even life-changing?

The answer to these questions is not that we are lazy or weak or greedy or undeserving (or whichever negative narrative we have come to believe).

The answer to these questions is programming. We are programmed from the time we are in the womb and this programming goes on for our whole lives.

Our conscious mind accounts for only around 5% of our entire mind. Just 5%! This, of course, means that the other 95% of the time (i.e. almost always) we are functioning from the programmes which have been embedded into our subconscious at some point in our life.

A good analogy for this is learning to drive. It is only a conscious process when we are actively learning and have to consciously remember to put the clutch down before we change gear or remember ‘mirror, signal, manoeuvre’, for example. Once we are competent and experienced drivers, driving becomes a subconscious process and we often arrive at our destination and struggle to remember how we got there!

What’s more, the subconscious mind processes information billions of times more quickly than the conscious mind. So, this fact coupled with the fact that the subconscious accounts for around 95% of our mind as a whole should give you some idea of how incredibly powerful the influence of our subconscious programming is.

This is absolutely fine – in fact, it’s great! – if we are operating on positive subconscious programmes like ‘I am worthy’ or ‘I deserve to be happy’ or ‘I love my life’.

Often, however, we are operating on more detrimental programmes:

‘I’m not good enough’

‘I don’t deserve to be happy/healthy/attractive’

‘I’m not clever enough’

‘My sister is the pretty one’

‘I can’t do anything right’

‘My mum has always been overweight so I will be too’

‘Food is the only thing that makes me happy’.

And many, many more.

Do any of these sound familiar? Do any of these resonate with you or make you feel uncomfortable/sad/angry?

Our bodies record every experience we ever have, from our time in the womb onwards (quite a thought, I know!). So even when we can’t consciously remember an experience because we were very young (or often because we have managed quite successfully to push it right to the back of our minds), our body still holds on to the memory.

Any feelings with a high emotional charge, e.g. inferiority, guilt, jealousy, failure, etc., stay with us until we take steps to acknowledge them and clear the relevant emotion from our bodies, minds and energy systems.

Of course, food and emotions are intrinsically linked, hence why we can inadvertently sabotage our attempts at healthy living (or indeed anything else we are attempting to change in our lives). 

Eating to fill an emotional void, eating due to loneliness, powerlessness, boredom, stress…the list goes on.

As incredible as it may seem, we can even choose to hold on to excess weight at a (deeply!) subconscious level as it can give us a feeling of protection; it creates a barrier between us and a harsh world. Or perhaps if we have been badly hurt in a relationship then we can (again, DEEPLY subconsciously) decide to make ourselves feel less attractive in some way so that we are less likely to be approached by prospective partners and can therefore avoid being hurt again.

Huge steps forward can be made when we clear these old, stuck emotions and outdated subconscious programmes which no longer serve us.

When we are functioning from an emotionally-balanced, positively-programmed mindset it is significantly easier to opt for the healthy choice, not only because we are operating from a healthier, more neutral perspective, but also because we are far more in tune with our bodies and emotions.

So, to help yourself along the path to lasting change, as well as following advice from a qualified Nutritionist, take some time to tune into yourself and see if you can identify where and/or when these emotions originate from (you might be surprised).

With a bit of time and effort, it is absolutely possible to clear the negative emotions and programming which are holding us back and to implement balance and positive programming in their place, allowing us to move forward with greater ease and confidence.

Melanie holds the International Diploma in Integrated Healing, a revolutionary healing system that which works on the whole being (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) to release blocks to health, happiness and true wellbeing. Integrated Healing combines the best of modern Psychology, Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Physiology, Applied Kinesiology, Traditional Chinese Medicine, complementary medicine (and many other therapies) with its own unique methodologies.

www.melaniehigginbotham.com

4 Simple Strategies to Lose Weight with a Healthy Mindset

4 Simple Strategies to Lose Weight with a Healthy Mindset

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When it comes to losing weight the healthy way, your mindset can play a big part in whether you are going to be successful. Approaching weight loss from the wrong perspective is one of the biggest reasons why so many people fail with diets and eating plans. And on the flip side, getting your mindset right can be a game changer for successfully losing weight.

Here are some mindset shifts that worked for me and could help you to supercharge your weight loss and keep the pounds off!

Think About Why You’re Doing It

Why you want to lose weight can make a lot of difference. Basing your reasons for being happier or looking good are a lot more likely to fail as there’s no saying that losing weight will actually make you feel good about yourself or bring you happiness.

Instead of choosing these kinds of reasons as your basis for weight loss, look at things differently. Think of your weight loss as part of a journey to becoming healthier and not just a means of getting to an end target. It’s a great opportunity to introduce healthy habits into your life that set the scene for both improving your health and losing weight into the bargain. When your ultimate goal is to live a longer and healthier life, weight loss will probably happen as a nice extra bonus as a result of these new habits.

Don’t Go for Broke

Trying to do too much too soon with your weight loss can work against you and this is one of the reasons why fad diets and drastically reducing your calorie intake aren’t successful in the long term. You might lose some weight, to begin with, but chances are, this will quickly tail off and depending on your mindset and eating habits, you might even start gaining more weight.

When it comes to weight loss, slow and steady tends to do a lot better than trying to lose weight as quickly as possible.

You’re a lot more likely to succeed if you go for smaller shifts that add up to bigger lifestyle changes. If you do them every day, they’ll soon become habits. This is more of a long game and you probably won’t see results straight away but there’s a better chance of actually achieving your weight loss goals compared to focusing on one big goal that could fail.

You want your healthy choices to feel natural and not like a chore or as though you’re depriving yourself and this is where healthy habits can really come into their own.

Breaking the Food-Emotions Cycle

One of the factors that can make it hard to lose weight involves emotional eating. We often eat when we’re not really hungry and because we’re feeling certain emotions. Breaking the link between your food and your emotions is a key mindset shift to master if you want to lose weight and keep it off.

Moving away from emotional eating helps you to react to genuine hunger cues so you’ll eat to fuel your body and not in line with how you’re feeling. Mindful eating is a great way to get back in touch with your body’s hunger signals but it can be a big challenge to master, especially if you’re used to emotional eating. Finding ways to address your emotions that don’t involve food can make a huge difference in being able to lose weight naturally.

Visualising Weight Loss Success

Visualisation can be a powerful technique for weight loss, especially if it’s combined with positive self-talk. How does visualisation work? The theory is that it helps to rewire pathways in the brain so it can be great for breaking habits and learning new ones.

To get the most from it, visualise yourself at your ideal weight, with your body fat transforming into a much more positive form of energy. Keep this mental image in mind as much as possible.

You can use positive affirmations and self-talk to highlight to yourself how you’ll feel when you get to this point. Don’t forget to focus on how you’ll feel with your health, fitness and wellbeing and not just how much better you’ll feel about being thinner.

Even though this is going to happen in the future, keep your self-talk in the present tense and not the future to make visualisation a more effective mindset shift. Tell yourself that you have the power to change your body through the power of your mind as the finishing touch.

Doing this every day can be a lot more effective than you might think.

Start making a plan for your life long goals for your health, not just the short-term ones.

I hope you found this blog useful and will be able to implement some of my tips. However, if you’ve been struggling to get in shape for some time, and you’re tired of trying new crazy diets that don’t work long-term, then I might have a solution. 

I am running a 30-Day Food for Thought Group Challenge starting 12th May. I have run several successful group challenges in the past. This challenge is focused around emotional eating, cravings, stress management and portion control. These are the key areas that can really affect your long-term success when trying to make healthy changes to your diet and lifestyle.

Lots more information about the challenge can be found on my HOME PAGE. It will be packed with lots of useful content, eBooks, meal plan, recipes, weekly challenges and sooooo much more. If you need that extra accountability and motivation to reach your goals this will be a fantastic place to start making some BIG changes.

I hope you can join this amazing, growing community, where we will encourage and support each other along the way! What’s not to love!!

Best wishes,

Christy x

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